We are not born with a developed sense of self-confidence. The level of confidence depends on how we were raised, how our parents encouraged us in childhood and our people now encourage our achievements, how we ourselves interpret the events that happen to us, how we perceive criticism. All this has a direct impact on our sense of self-esteem, self-esteem and, of course, a sense of self-confidence.
Confident people are ready to be responsible for their actions and deeds, they are able to accept constructive and reasoned criticism, admit their mistakes and learn from them.
It is never too late to develop a sense of self-confidence. The main thing is to have a desire and make an effort to it. Here are some tips to help you:
Make peace with yourself
This is the most important step.
Stop tormenting yourself for not being confident in yourself. This makes no sense, you only make the situation worse. Reconcile yourself to who you are, and this is not fatal. Convince yourself of this for real, not only in words that you repeat yourself a few times.
When you allow yourself to be so, you will already feel relief. The next step is to decide what to do about it and build an action plan.
Take the first step, and you will understand that not everything is so scary. Seneca
Stop communicating with people who sow negative
In life, we are surrounded by a huge number of people who constantly spread negative energy around themselves. As a rule, everything is bad with them, and this bad one reciprocates. Such people will meet your hostility with hostility and harsh criticism. These people chose to stay still and not move anywhere.
Leave them there, and move forward yourself, towards development and self-improvement.
Communicate with those who believe in and support you
Form a circle of people from people who believe in you and support you. I am not talking about people who do not criticize you, but about those who criticize constructively, for the sake of understanding the essence, and not for the sake of criticism.
The formation of such a circle of people will take some time, and at the first stage it is enough to communicate at least with those who are neutral in their assessments.
Fight Fears Actively
Insecurity is the fear of failure and failure. Fears alone will not go anywhere until you drive them away. Fighting fears must be proactive. Afraid of meeting new people – step over yourself and do it. Deal with the possibility of failure. Remember, you are just training.
Start the fight with small victories, and you yourself will not notice how you win the war.
Change the image
As they say, they are met by clothes. Appearance affects primarily yourself. Dressing stylishly, you will begin to notice that the attitude of people towards you is changing. Stylish fashionable clothes do not mean at all that it costs fabulous money. You need to choose clothes that are suitable for you in style and colors. In the store, look for not a thing, but yourself.
Your feelings and reactions of people will fill you with positive and pride, and, accordingly, self-confidence, your actions and deeds.
In addition to clothing, posture and overall fitness play a big role in your appearance.
In an age when during the day everyone is hunching in front of computers at work, and in the evening at home, a fit body and, especially, a straight back have become a rarity.
Sport will allow you to kill several birds with one stone. You will become slimmer, your body will be in good shape, normalized sleep mode. You will feel more attractive and gain confidence.
Always be positive
You can add another extremely important factor to the new image in clothes and a slender body – a positive attitude.
Nobody likes negative people, everyone escapes them except the same negative ones. Avoid these closed circles of communication.
A positive attitude attracts people. A positive attitude is not a shirt guy, it is a person from whom you can get only positive thoughts and energies. If you are not verbose by nature, stay that way, it will not harm the positive.
Insecurity is the fear of not coping with a situation. Master new knowledge and skills that will allow you to be ready for everything that you can expect in life and at work.
Be afraid to speak publicly, go to public speaking courses, where you can gain experience and practice that you lack in this jelly.
Look for inspiration that will support you
Pick music that makes you act, lights a fire inside. Throw away melancholy melodies.
Read books (we recently wrote how to read books effectively), alternate classics with books on self-development.
Self-development books are very useful. Yes, it seems that everything written there is clear. But they were not written in order to surprise you with something new, but in order to remind you of what you already knew.
As for books on self-development, we would advise you to start with the books of Dale Carnegie, best of all with “How to Stop Worrying and Start Living”. If you read it once, re-read and refresh your thoughts and impressions.
Try to track your progress in your struggle for self-confidence. This will allow you to notice a positive trend. And if you notice that there are no changes at the front, do not despair, just think about what changes to make to the strategy of your self-development.
Accept yourself as you are at the moment! Love yourself, despite the fact that you have a huge work ahead of yourself! Reward yourself for all achievements!
We wish you success on the path to gaining self-confidence!